When Does It End? Do You Live with Trauma, OR does Trauma Outlive You?

In this episode, host Collier Landry shares his avoidance of reading a letter from his father that he received only a couple weeks ago on his birthday. This leads him to reflect on how this anxiety of avoiding opening the letter led him to think about his father’s mortality.

Collier also looks at the similarities between Alex Murdaugh’s behavior with his surviving son Buster Murdaugh, and how that mirrors Collier’s own relationship with his father Dr. John F. Boyle, Jr. Collier touches on how he and Buster will both be dealing with the intergenerational trauma of having their father’s murder their mothers, and destroy everything in their path.

Trauma is a complex and pervasive experience that can have lasting effects on a person’s mental and emotional well-being. The question of whether a person lives with trauma or if trauma outlives them depends on various factors such as the nature and severity of the traumatic event, the person’s coping mechanisms, and the available support systems.


Living with trauma means that a person continues to experience the effects of the traumatic event in their day-to-day life. This can manifest as symptoms such as anxiety, depression, flashbacks, and hypervigilance. Living with trauma can be challenging, and individuals may require professional help, such as therapy or counseling, to manage their symptoms effectively.

On the other hand, trauma can also outlive a person, meaning that the impact of the traumatic event extends beyond the person’s lifespan. This can occur in cases where trauma affects future generations, such as in the case of intergenerational trauma, where the traumatic experience is passed down through the family line.

Trauma can also outlive a person in a broader sense, such as when a traumatic event has a significant impact on society or culture. For example, historical events such as genocide or war can continue to affect entire communities and nations long after the event has occurred.

In conclusion, whether a person lives with trauma or if trauma outlives them is a complex issue that depends on various factors. While living with trauma can be challenging, seeking professional help and having access to support systems can help individuals manage their symptoms effectively. However, trauma can also have lasting impacts on future generations and society as a whole, highlighting the importance of addressing and healing from traumatic experiences.


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